Top Ten Open Adoption Mistakes

  1. Thinking that the adoptive parents will be babysitters not parents.
  2. Thinking that the adoptive parents are better than you are.
  3. Thinking that you will not feel any attachment to the child.
  4. Telling the adoptive parents that they don’t need to worry about you changing your mind.
  5. Believing that you can do this all by yourself.
  6. Keeping your pregnancy or adoption plan a secret, especially from people who you love and who love you.
  7. Thinking that open adoption means there will be no feelings of loss.
  8. Not telling the birthfather that you are pregnant or are planning on placing your child for adoption.
  9. Trying to be someone you are not with the adoptive parents.
  10. Working with an adoption counsellor you do not like or trust.